You fell in love, the spark was lighting the fire under you. With your thought of feelings; you felt this is the one that will help me achieve the wishes, thoughts, and dreams I have been thinking about my whole life. But why is it that for the majority we fall under the trap of negativity? We are all born with the gift of having great power of the mind to control and achieve anything we may desire. Being a man or a women the mind holds the same power, but we are taught to separate and deny certain power we do share as a whole. When the silent secrets of information are united together a powerful future to a new civilization will develop.  Society has been playing a very cruel game with the human mind for thousand of years. It all started within the religion sector, where the ruling man was threatened by the strength of a women, because women were showing signs of the power they hold within themselves. The strength of pain when bearing children, giving tender loving care to their children, husband, family.  Women are the support pillar that holds strong, keeping peace, taking care of all responsibilities, and household chores. A self motivating factor most men do not hold. As the man trots off to work

You know there is a distinct difference between us human beings and the animal kingdom.   When animals are hurt they succumb to their suffering, enduring it until they achieve either a recovery or death.   People on the other hand attempt to communicate their suffering to others.  Many people, like animals simply succumb to their pain in silence attempting to hope for relief through their pain; however it seems to me that many more find themselves feeling so helpless in their suffering that they lash out at others as they express the helplessness of their suffering.  Hurting people that hurt others are really crying out for attention to their pain.  Hurting people feel that there can be no relief for their pain, with this belief they perceive themselves as helpless, vulnerable, and lash out in their pain to those around them.  We are emotional beings first; then perhaps, and hopefully in time, we begin to see the bigger picture of our lives.    Some say you bring it on yourself.  A statement like that is also a statement that causes hurt and pain.  We all know that there are many types of pain.  When hurting people hurt others they are expressing a very particular type of pain….that pain is the pain of the heart.    This is the most destructive pain there is. 

One of the most important achievements in anyone’s life is to persist until they discover what it is that makes them truly happy and fulfilled. We’re talking the kind of deep inner passion that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning and get going! The kind of feeling we all experienced as a child when we couldn’t wait for morning to come so we could get downstairs to see what was waiting for us under the christmas tree! (even if you don’t observe xmas, you know what I am talking about) Sadly, most all human misery can be traced to this fact not being widely recognized and emphasized! If you aren’t doing something creative that truly gets your blood flowing, you are tragically missing out on the very reason for being alive! There is a great analogy in the field of firefighting. When firefighters respond to a building fire they know that in order to efficiently put out the fire they have to find the “seat of the fire.” The “seat of the fire” is the location of it’s origin, the source of the fire, the spot where everything started, the core if you will. They must work their way through and over obstacles, persisting in finding their way through all the smoke and heat in

We don’t stay where we aren’t wanted. We don’t remain happy in a job that gives us no staying opportunities. We may remain there for financial gain, but we slowly die in stagnation. The same can be said for all relationships. Without reasons to stay, our brain no longer functions the way it is designed to because we don’t get to properly exercise it when we are bored. We feel no emotion, we feel no attachment, and we feel worthless. If we stay, we doubt our ability to reason and we don’t look at the world around us. We don’t understand how others have more than ourselves. We wonder what makes us stay. Yet, we don’t question the actual behavior that we continue to choose each day. What causes us to stay? Is it fear or love of the job or relationship? Fear cripples us so that we no longer function naturally. Love propels us to do great things. Do you see a few who seem happy at work? Why are they happy? Are they really happy? What brings happiness? Think about the toddler and that huge smile. That smile is usually associated with conquering a new challenge on that unending quest for more knowledge. A quest to find a sense of accomplishment (a sense only created by the toddler)